How Do You Submit to Him?

This post is in relationship to the prior posted video (watch here if not posted below) where I question, how does one submit in a relationship that they are not receiving the love they need?

Interesting I'm often here. Every leg of this marriage journey has been, I'm not being loved the way that I need so why should I go out of my way to love you the way you need?

But after reading Ephesians 5:25 where it is called for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives respect your husbands, it suddenly didn't seem justifiable to fail my covenant with God.

Meaning, no matter what is going on in the physical world, ie in my marriage, God gave a command and I have to figure out how to execute it.

So here's what I got in no specific order.

1. To respect or disrespect is an inside job. I must first respect myself or disrespect myself before I can ever project it outwards. The energy resides inside. So with that knowing, I will always seek to respect myself first. Others just benefit.

2. Respect is like that Elephant analogy. Chunk it down. I FEEL God is not calling for me to show blind respect, but case by case. Moment to moment. Paying attention to how I answer the phone, respect. Paying attention to how I walk past him in the hallway, respect. Moment to moment, respect my husband.

This could also create the energy for number three.

3. Date him. Twice in the past 48 hours I watched videos about married couples still dating each other. Now I by no means want to go anywhere with my husband, Matter of fact, I scheduled an event on Valentine's Day because to me, it's just another day.

Don't worry, a good sisfriend reminded me, it really shouldn't be just another day... so I moved the event.

But dating is an energy. Remember when you first started messing with someone? Not even dating, just getting to know each other, those feelings?

To me, that's the dating energy I am seeking, moment to moment of course. So toss a lil laugh emoji at his joke when he texts... it's gotta usher in something other than ignoring it.

Seeds in the ground, baby, seeds in the ground.

4. There is life and death in the tongue and the thoughts of man. Being mindful of what I say and lord, what I THINK about my husband. Speak LIFE in all things. Regardless of circumstance, speak it as though it is so.

Not wishful thinking. No, when I pray for my marriage, I don't pray for a man, I pray for my marriage and God will work on the rest.

5. Call them demons out and bind them in the name of Jesus. Satan cannot reside where he is detected, and I detect you devil. Get out of my marriage, get out of my finances, get out of my family, get out of my life! I bind you and all of your lil minions in the name of Jesus.

Divorce is a demon
Deception is a demon
Resentment is a demon
Unforgiveness is a demon
Comparison is a demon
Competition is a demon
Superiority is a demon

And I bind you all in the name of Jesus and cast you into the deepest ocean to swim with the pigs- Amen.

One thing I have noticed about myself and this journey. The moment I recognize the devil's presence, I'm no longer 'triggered. Because it's one thing to be triggered by ignorance, but in awareness, and to know WHAT is triggering me, Satan catches no wins over here! Period.

6. Lastly, I had to know what I was fighting for. I am not necessarily fighting for this marriage, which for a multitude of reasons, I am. But I am fighting for my divine alignment.

God called for me to respect my husband, to submit to my husband and it isn't for me to continue to find reasons not to, it's for me to continue to find ways that I can be obedient. Obedient to God, this has nothing to do with man.

And that is what God told me as I sat with myself and contemplated how I can be respectful in a marriage that is not centered around the love Christ has for the church.

Lonee Appleton M.Ed

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